Everybody is capable of offering a session of TTT to somebody else. It is First Aid and simple.
There are things you shall consider before offering a session of TTT to somebody, besides learning it and having used it for yourself first:
- Be centered
- Be confident in what you do and why you do
- Be present
- Standing, Sitting or Laying Down are all possible positions
Sit Down Like Two Ships Passing
If you are sitting, we recommend that you sit down with the chairs set like two ships passing each other. This position allows you to reach all points with ease without invading the personal space of the person being treated.
Explain Before and During
Always explain what you are about to do and show the points on yourself and get an OK from the person to touch these points on them. If their eyes are closed during the session let them know when you move your hands by saying for example “Now I am going to touch your forehead.” so they feel safe and can relax without being surprised at your touch.
Learn the science of stress and trauma, as explained in Understanding Stress (page 117 in Resolving Yesterday).
Eyes Open or Closed
It is fine for a person to receive the treatment with their eyes open, but there can be a greater effect if their eyes are closed, since it allows them to relax and focus on their internal sensations. Also, you can check the eyelids for fluttering, which is a good sign of relaxation.
Never promise any specific results before a session. Every person is unique and sometimes the results of a session show up a day or a week later, depending on the stimulus required to trigger the stress reaction. You could for example say: “If you want to experience a method that may allow you to relax, I can show it to you.” or “I know a method for relaxing emotional distress that can be useful even with severe traumatic experiences. I use it for myself at times, do you want me to show you?”
Agree to continue until calm. Emotions can rest on top of each other like layers of skin on an onion. If anxiety lets go during a session it can resolve into anger, then grief, then peace. If a strong emotion surfaces during a tapping session, we recommend to keep tapping for another round focusing on the new emotion. If this happens it is good to get permission to continue before starting again.
Connect to the Emotion
For TTT to have an effect, the person being treated has to be connected to the emotion they wish to treat, which is why TTT works perfectly if applied during an emotional reaction. If they are not connected to the emotion they wish to treat the effect will be a slight relaxation, lowering of cortisol levels and peace of mind but the reaction can resurface. We often say that doing TTT without connecting to the emotion you wish to treat, is like turning on a shower and never getting in.
Evaluate before and after
The evaluation before a session can be as simple as saying “If you think about it now, on a scale from 0–10, where 0 is no distress and 10 is very much, how strong is your emotional response?” This is referred to as a Subjective Units of Distress (SUD) scale. Evaluating makes it easier for the other person and for you to notice what the difference is after the session.
Trust the Method
TTT is a generous method. We recommend it to be performed as described here, but if you happen to tap in a different order or forget some points, don’t worry. Even if you don’t do it exactly how it is described in the book, it usually brings change anyway. Nothing bad will happen that hasn’t already happened for this person. Trust the method.
No Words Needed
For TTT to work it is only necessary to connect lightly to the emotion involved, there is no need for verbal archeology into what may have caused it. There are many reasons why this might be of benefit:
1. Low-trust areas
2. Dealing with shame
4. Language barriers
Change Suffering to Joy
The most healing power of this world is laughter. Laughter is a natural reaction when you release tension and find a new perspective on your challenges. We use a lot of humor in our workshops, and we promote humor as one of the most important tools of healing. Cultivate your humor and practice smiling.